My kids, especially no. 2 and no. 3 are not the obedient type, not the type who would do as told, NO! I tell them "NO, DON'T DO IT" nicely, they seem to be deaf on both ears. I repeat the same words and they reply and say "OK" but still continue doing what they are not supposed to do. I holler the same words and add "I will CANE you right now!!" Suddenly, their ear drums seem to work again and they stop short of what they are told not to do and look at me.
Why do I need to threaten them with the cane all the time? Most times, the cane did end up on their skin, at times leaving marks. Sometimes I am too tired of hollering and threatening and it seems like THE CANE REALLY HELPS ME TO BE SANE, no pun intended! Sometimes I have thought of stashing a cane in my bag when I go shopping, so that I can control the 2 smaller rascals, lest they get lost and never to be found again.
I wonder what is wrong with my teaching. Why wouldn't my kids listen and be obedient? I wonder if disciplining them would be more effective if I don't work anymore and spend more quality time raising them up with my utmost best effort. Perhaps I should try. Just like a young creeply crawly plant. If the plants are not straightened with an aid, they will creep and crawl all over or perhaps grow up crocked or slanted. Plants can be assisted to grow into all types of shapes that we want. Same goes with human. With the proper guidance and aid at a young age, they will grow up to be the kind of person whom we want them to be. This is yet another issue that's playing wildly in my mind lately. I have to sort this out before all 3 of them become wayward. Regret and tears are too late then.