Walking the Health Tightrope - PCOS, Pre-Diabetes and the Challenge of Healthy Weight Gain

Yesterday I went to Pantai Hospital Ipoh to review my medical report with the family physician at the Health Screening Department.

Besides one issue that needs yearly (or even bi-annual) monitoring, the doctor pointed out something else — I am underweight. At 41kg, she advised me to put on a little weight to reduce the risk of low bone mass. Osteoporosis is more common in thinner individuals due to lower peak bone mass and decreased mechanical loading on the skeleton. Prevention, she emphasized, is key.

She encouraged me to continue my brisk walking and to incorporate weight lifting and squats. I smiled quietly because between daily house chores and my regular workouts, I already do plenty of squats! She also advised me to drink milk daily — which I am already doing.

Then came the more complicated part.

My fasting blood sugar was 4.9 mmol/L — comfortably within range. However, my HbA1c crept up to 6.0, which falls into the pre-diabetic range. As someone with PCOS — an insulin-resistance disorder — I already carry a higher risk of developing Type 2 diabetes.

Last year, my KL gynae suggested starting metformin if I wanted to continue enjoying sweet treats for “a sweeter life.” I chose instead to cut down further on sugary foods. My HbA1c improved to 5.8 — better, but still not ideal. I would like it to be at 5.7 or lower.

If I’m honest, the recent spike may have been self-inflicted — thanks to Chinese New Year cookies, bak kwa and festive goodies. Indulgence has consequences.

So here I am, standing at a nutritional crossroads.

On one hand, I need to gain a little weight to protect my bones.

On the other hand, I need to cut down further on carbohydrates to protect my pancreas.

More than two decades ago, when I was first diagnosed with PCOS, I stopped eating rice, noodles, and significantly reduced white flour products (though not completely eliminating them). With age catching up, perhaps I need to tighten the discipline even more — or consider medication if lifestyle measures are no longer enough.

For now, I will:

Increase the intensity and duration of my brisk walks

Add more structured weight training

Cut back further on sweet foods (even fruits) - which is very hard as I am already controlling my sugary foods now.

Repeat my blood test in three months

Health, it seems, is always about balance — sometimes a delicate and frustrating one.

But I am determined to keep walking this tightrope carefully. 

So what can I eat now if I have to cut back on fruits, biscuits, breads and cakes for breakfast and snacks?

The answer seems to be: more nuts!

I already eat walnuts, chia seeds and ground flaxseeds daily, but now it looks like I need to stock up on an even wider variety of nuts and seeds.

Last night at 9:30 pm, I ordered a 1kg pack of groundnuts from Shopee. To my surprise, the parcel was delivered this morning at 9 am! I must say I am very impressed with how fast the seller and Shopee managed the delivery.

Next on my list: pumpkin seeds and sunflower seeds to add to my growing stash of healthy snacks.

Looks like my snack drawer is about to become a nut-and-seed bar. 😄

Kacang Menglembu Cap Pemancing is by far the best brand for the tastiest roast groundnuts. The seller (Farmer Boy on Shopee) is from Ipoh, thus the speedy delivery.  It's also the cheapest on Shopee and Lazada at RM29.87 for a pack of 1kg.
I love snacking on groundnuts with my dad and mum at the dining table after breakfast and lunch.

Rhodiola vs Ashwagandha: How to Choose the Right Adaptogen for Stress, Energy, and Sleep

Rhodiola vs ashwagandha is one of the most practical supplement comparisons because these two “adaptogens” often get recommended for the same modern problems: stress, fatigue, low motivation, and poor sleep. But they do not feel the same, and they do not fit the same person.

In this guide, I’ll compare what the research actually supports, what product labels don’t tell you, and how to choose without hype. This is educational information, not a diagnosis or medical advice.

What’s the simplest difference between rhodiola and ashwagandha?

If you want the short version: rhodiola tends to be used for daytime “mental stamina” and perceived fatigue, while ashwagandha is more often used for calming, stress tension, and sleep support. That’s not a rule, but it matches how many people report the experience and how the clinical research clusters.

Both are discussed as adaptogens, yet “adaptogen” is a broad traditional concept. In modern research, the relevant question is narrower: which one has better human evidence for your main goal and better safety for your situation?

What are these herbs, exactly?

Rhodiola (Rhodiola rosea)

Rhodiola rosea is a cold-climate plant sometimes called “arctic root.” Most standardized supplements use the rhizome and root. Quality products often specify marker compounds such as rosavins and salidroside, because the Rhodiola genus has many species and not all match the research.

Ashwagandha (Withania somnifera)

Ashwagandha is an Ayurvedic herb also known as “winter cherry”. Supplements typically use root extract (sometimes root + leaf). Labels may mention withanolides as markers, but “withanolides %” alone does not guarantee clinical equivalence across brands.

What does the evidence say for stress and anxiety symptoms?

If your primary goal is stress tension or anxious feelings (not a medical diagnosis), ashwagandha has the more consistent human evidence. A 2024 meta-analysis (9 studies, 558 participants) reported statistically significant improvements in stress and anxiety measures and reductions in cortisol compared with placebo in the studied populations.

Rhodiola also appears in stress-related research, including regulatory monographs in Europe that recognize traditional use for stress-related fatigue and exhaustion. But overall, rhodiola studies often emphasize fatigue, cognitive performance under stress, and physical performance markers more than “calming.”

In a 2024 meta-analysis, ashwagandha showed significant improvements in perceived stress and anxiety outcomes across 9 trials (total N=558), with studied doses commonly in the 125–600 mg/day range for 30–90 days.

European regulators describe rhodiola root/rhizome preparations as a traditional herbal option for relief of stress symptoms such as fatigue and exhaustion (traditional use framework).

What does the evidence say for energy, fatigue, and performance?

If you’re comparing rhodiola vs ashwagandha for “energy,” define what you mean. Most people mean one of two things: (1) less perceived fatigue and more mental drive, or (2) better physical performance.

Rhodiola has newer meta-analytic work looking at performance outcomes and biomarkers in endurance contexts. That doesn’t mean it “boosts everyone,” but it shows why rhodiola is often positioned as the “daytime adaptogen.”

Ashwagandha is also studied for strength, recovery, and well-being, but its mainstream reputation is still more “calm + sleep.” If you’re already low-energy and stressed, the calming feel may help some people sleep better, which indirectly helps daytime function.

A 2025 meta-analysis evaluated randomized trials of Rhodiola rosea supplementation on endurance performance and physiological biomarkers, synthesizing evidence up to March 2025.

How do they work in the body (without overpromising)?

Mechanisms are not guarantees. Still, understanding the “direction” helps you choose.

Rhodiola: stress response + fatigue perception

Rhodiola research often discusses stress-response pathways, perceived exertion, and neurochemical signaling under strain. In practice, people usually take rhodiola earlier in the day because it can feel activating for some.

Ashwagandha: stress tension + sleep quality signals

Ashwagandha studies commonly measure stress scales and cortisol, and some trials measure sleep quality. Many users prefer evening dosing because it may feel settling. However, responses vary and some people feel groggy with higher doses.

Which one should a beginner choose?

Make the choice based on your primary use case, then confirm it with safety fit.

Your main goal	Often a better first pick	Why	Common timing
Daytime fatigue, mental stamina, “burnout” feeling	Rhodiola	Traditional-use framework for stress fatigue; performance/fatigue research cluster	Morning / early afternoon
Stress tension, feeling “wired,” difficulty winding down	Ashwagandha	More consistent RCT/meta-analysis evidence for stress/anxiety symptoms	Evening or split dose
Sleep support (without making medical claims)	Ashwagandha	More trials include sleep-related outcomes	Evening
Performance-focused training block	It depends	Rhodiola has endurance-focused synthesis; ashwagandha has strength/well-being reviews	Goal-dependent

What dose ranges show up most in research?

Don’t treat dose ranges like prescriptions. Use them to avoid unrealistic dosing and to spot products that look underdosed or overdosed.

Ashwagandha typical studied range

Many stress-focused trials use standardized extracts in the rough range of 125–600 mg/day for 30–90 days. Extract type matters, so compare “extract name/standardization,” not just milligrams.

Rhodiola typical studied range

Rhodiola trials vary widely by extract and outcome. Regulatory documents emphasize standardized preparations and appropriate product quality, and research often uses standardized extracts rather than raw powder.

Practical tip: for both herbs, a “start low, assess for a week, then adjust” approach is smarter than jumping to the highest capsule count.

What about side effects and interactions?

This is where rhodiola vs ashwagandha becomes very personal. “Natural” does not mean “interaction-free.”

Ashwagandha: key cautions

• Thyroid: Some reports and clinical discussions suggest possible thyroid hormone effects in certain people. If you have thyroid disease or take thyroid meds, be cautious.
• Pregnancy: Avoid unless a clinician explicitly advises otherwise.
• Sedatives / alcohol: May increase drowsiness in some people.
• GI effects: Upset stomach, nausea, or loose stools can happen.
• Liver concerns: There have been safety discussions and case reports in the broader literature; use reputable brands and stop if you develop symptoms like dark urine or jaundice and seek medical care.

Rhodiola: key cautions

• Too stimulating for some: Can feel jittery or disturb sleep if taken late.
• Medication interactions: If you take antidepressants or have bipolar disorder history, talk to a clinician first due to mood/activation concerns.
• GI effects: Nausea or stomach upset can occur.

If you are on prescription meds, pregnant, breastfeeding, or managing a chronic condition, check with a qualified clinician before starting either supplement.

How to pick a high-quality product

Two people can take “ashwagandha” and have totally different experiences because the products are not equivalent.

For rhodiola

• Look for Rhodiola rosea (not just “Rhodiola spp.”).
• Prefer labels that specify markers like rosavins and salidroside and disclose extract ratio.
• Choose brands with contaminant testing (heavy metals, microbes).

For ashwagandha

• Check whether it is root-only or root + leaf, and whether the extract is standardized.
• Prefer clear marker disclosure (withanolides) plus third-party testing.
• Be skeptical of extreme claims on labels or ads.

Checklist: a fast decision method

1. Name one goal. “Less stress tension,” “better sleep,” or “less daytime fatigue.” Pick only one.
2. Match herb to goal. Stress/sleep → often ashwagandha. Fatigue/drive → often rhodiola.
3. Scan your risk flags. Thyroid issues, pregnancy, sedatives, mood disorder history, complex meds.
4. Pick a standardized product. Clear markers + third-party testing beats vague labels.
5. Start low and track. Sleep, energy, mood, GI comfort for 7–14 days.
6. Stop if you get adverse effects. Don’t “push through” palpitations, severe anxiety, rash, or persistent GI issues.

Can you take rhodiola and ashwagandha together?

Some people combine them (rhodiola in the morning, ashwagandha in the evening). Conceptually, it’s a “day-night” stack. But stacking also stacks uncertainty: interactions, additive effects on mood/sedation, and product variability.

If you’re a beginner, I’d rather see you test one at a time for 2–3 weeks. That’s how you learn what actually works for you.

Where expectations go wrong

Most disappointment comes from one of these:

• Using the wrong tool: expecting rhodiola to fix insomnia or ashwagandha to create instant motivation.
• Undersleeping: no supplement replaces sleep debt.
• Overpromised outcomes: “adaptogens” support coping; they are not cures.
• Low-quality products: wrong species, low standardization, poor testing.

Rhodiola vs Ashwagandha | FAQ

Which is better for stress: rhodiola vs ashwagandha?
Ashwagandha has more consistent clinical evidence for stress and anxiety symptom measures in adults.

Which is better for energy and fatigue?
Rhodiola is more often used for perceived fatigue and daytime stamina; responses vary by person and product.

Can ashwagandha make you sleepy?
Yes. Some people feel more relaxed or drowsy, especially with higher doses or evening use.

Can rhodiola make you anxious?
It can feel stimulating for some people, especially if taken too late or at higher doses.

How long does it take to notice effects?
Many trials run 30–90 days for ashwagandha. For rhodiola, some people notice effects sooner, but research varies by outcome and extract.

Who should avoid these supplements?
Pregnant people, minors, and anyone with complex medical conditions or prescription medications should speak with a clinician first.

Glossary

• Rhodiola rosea: The studied rhodiola species most commonly used in supplements.
• Withania somnifera: The botanical name for ashwagandha (winter cherry).
• Adaptogen: A traditional term for herbs used to support stress resilience; not a guarantee of a specific medical outcome.
• Rosavins: Marker compounds often used to standardize Rhodiola rosea extracts.
• Salidroside: Another key rhodiola marker used in research and quality control.
• Withanolides: A class of compounds used to characterize ashwagandha extracts.
• Standardized extract: An extract adjusted to contain a consistent level of marker compounds.
• Third-party testing: Independent testing for identity and contaminants (e.g., heavy metals, microbes).

Conclusion

If you want calmer evenings and better stress balance, start with ashwagandha. If you want more daytime stamina under pressure, start with rhodiola—then let your tracking decide.

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The Fibroid That Came Back: A Story of Fear, Faith, and Letting Go

Shortly after I gave birth to Cass, my youngest girl — sometime in 2008 or 2009 — my gynaecologist spotted a very tiny fibroid during a routine ultrasound scan. I can’t remember the exact year, but I remember his words clearly.

“It’s very small. Just monitor it.”

So I did.

In the early years, it caused no trouble at all. No pain, no heavy bleeding, nothing alarming. Life went on as usual, and that tiny fibroid faded into the background of my busy days as a mum.

But around 2015, things started to change.

My periods became unbearably heavy. Not the normal kind of heavy — the kind that makes you tired, woozy and very uncomfortable. This was extreme. I had to wear diapers (changed every hourly) during my period just to get through the day. It was physically draining and emotionally exhausting.

After consulting several doctors, I finally decided to go for a laparoscopic myomectomy in 2017. It’s a minimally invasive surgery commonly preferred over open surgery for removing uterine fibroids. Smaller cuts, faster recovery, less trauma to the body.

But what happened before the surgery was the scariest part.

The month leading up to it, I nearly bled to death during my period. My red blood cell count dropped dangerously low. My gynae warned me that if my levels didn’t improve, I might need a blood transfusion during surgery.

That possibility terrified me.

I was prescribed Sangobion iron supplements twice a day to boost my iron levels. I also drank red and black dates water daily and forced myself to eat more red meat. I did everything I could to build my blood back up.

On the day of my surgery, they repeated my blood test.

My red blood cell count had improved.

No transfusion needed.

I was incredibly relieved. The surgery went smoothly, and I was discharged less than 24 hours later. I still remember how thankful I felt — thankful to have gone through it safely, thankful that my body pulled through.

For a few years after that, life returned to normal.

Then, about four or five years later — sometime in 2021 or 2022 — during my annual checkup, my gynae found another fibroid.

My heart sank instantly.

All the old fears came rushing back. The bleeding, the weakness, the anxiety, the surgery. I remember thinking to myself: should I have asked for a hysterectomy back in 2017? Would that have spared me from going through this again?

Since discovering this new fibroid, I’ve been praying quietly every year that it would stop growing… or even disappear miraculously. Each annual scan feels like waiting for exam results.

The good news? It’s growing very slowly. From last year to this year, there has been little to no change in size. That alone gives me some comfort.

Over the years, I’ve reflected a lot on why this happened. I truly believe that prolonged stress, lack of sleep, and emotional struggles played a role. My acupuncturist once told me that in Traditional Chinese Medicine, fibroids are often linked to trapped negative emotions — especially stress and anger. From a medical standpoint, hormones like estrogen are also known contributors.

Maybe the truth lies somewhere in between.

At this stage, there isn’t much I can do except continue monitoring it. I also have a tiny ovarian cyst that’s being watched. I’m hoping that menopause will arrive soon and naturally slow down or stop these growths altogether.

My mum once shared that she has had an ovarian cyst for many years, and her doctor told her it didn’t need to be removed. That gave me some reassurance. Sometimes, not everything inside us needs to be “fixed.” Some things just need watching and patience.

The photo here was taken in May 2017, nine years ago, after my fibroid removal surgery at Sunway Medical Centre.

Today, I still hope I won’t need another surgery. But if it ever becomes necessary to save my life, I know I will face it the same way I did before — with fear, yes, but also with faith.

Because life has taught me this: we don’t always get control, but we always get a choice in how we face what comes next.

Less than 24 hours after my surgery with dad, mum, Sherilyn (12yo) & Cass (9yo).

My abdomen looks awful with scars from 3 C-sections, an ovarian drilling surgery (part of my fertility treatment as I had PCOS), and a fibroid removal surgery.

From Jigsaw Floors to Rubik’s Cubes: A Little Throwback to 2016

While scrolling through my Google Photos today, I stumbled upon a photo of Cass taken in February 2016. She was holding a Rubik’s cube, completely absorbed in it — and just like that, a flood of memories came rushing back.

Back then, both Alycia and Cass were crazy over the Rubik’s cube. Alycia’s high school teacher had encouraged the class to solve it during breaks, and she quickly got the hang of it. Within a short time, she could solve the entire cube in just a few minutes. Naturally, curious little Cass followed along. She was fascinated watching her sister and soon wanted one of her own.

From that point on, the cube went everywhere with her — waiting for me outside fitting rooms, sitting on trains, in the car, basically wherever we went. And somehow, she eventually mastered it too. She has always had a special gift for puzzles.

Even as a toddler, Cass was obsessed with jigsaw puzzles. At just two years old, she would sit on the floor completely immersed, piecing everything together with intense focus. I still remember moments when everyone was ready to head out, yet she remained glued to the floor, determined to finish her puzzle first.

Looking back at that photo, I realise how quickly time has flown. I miss that little puzzle-obsessed baby so much. Counting down the days — I’ll be seeing her again at the end of this month ❤️

Forex Has Become A Sophisticated Side Hustle For Stay-At-Home-Moms

 

If you're a stay-at-home mom, you know that, in this economy, surviving on one household income is extremely difficult. But that doesn't mean you need to give up your SAHM dreams and go back to work; you can start trading forex from home to help boost your household income.

Being a SAHM has changed dramatically over the years. As women have become more and more independent, the things you can do to keep yourself entertained or help supplement the household income have also become a lot more sophisticated. You don't need to throw Tupperware parties anymore or go door-to-door through your neighbourhood selling beauty products. These days, thanks to the internet, you can find so many rewarding ways to make money online.

You may have seen somewhere on the news forex trading has become a more mainstream income source than before. Most people wouldn't think twice about this because they're so accustomed to trading being something reserved for economists, but that's no longer true. Actually, with the right tools and resources, almost anyone can start forex trading, even a SAHM.

What Is Forex Trading?

Forex trading, also known as foreign exchange (FX), refers to the decentralized global market for buying and selling currencies with the aim of profiting from their price fluctuations. It's actually the largest financial market in the world, with a daily volume that exceeds $7.5 trillion.

Forex trading is highly popular and rapidly growing in Malaysia, with an estimated over 200,000 Malaysians actively trading currency pairs through various brokers. Forex trading is legal in Malaysia, and it's primarily regulated by Bank Negara Malaysia (BNM) under the Exchange Control Act of 1953. 

The Basics of Forex Trading

Before you can start trading, you should probably do a bit of research around the topic so you know if it's something you'd be interested in or likely to have time for. Make sure you learn the basics of forex trading, like understanding currency pairs, how the forex market works and the difference between technical and fundamental analysis. 

Next, you should choose a broker who's been licensed by a reputable authority and offers low fees, good support and a user-friendly website. Having a demo account first is also a great way for you to get a better grasp of trading because it will allow you to execute trades using virtual money, so you can gain experience without risking real capital.

Basic Concepts in Forex Trading

There are a few basic concepts in trading that you should familiarize yourself with, they are:

• Currency Pairs - Currencies are normally traded in pairs, consisting of a base (first) currency and a quote currency (second). For example, if you're trading in EUR/USD, this means that you're buying or selling Euros using US Dollars.
  • Major Pairs - This refers to the most traded liquid pairs. It includes EUR/USD, GBP/USD, USD/JPY and USD/CHF.
  • Minor/Crosses - This refers to major currencies excluding the USD (e.g., EUR/GBP).
  • Exotics - This refers to a major currency paired with a developing economy currency.
• Going Short vs Long
  • Going long means buying the pair because you're expecting the base currency to strengthen.
  • Going short means selling the pair because you're expecting the base currency to weaken.
• Pips and Spreads
  • Pip (Percentage in Points): The smallest price unit change, usually taken to the fourth decimal place.
  • Spread: The difference between the buying (ask) and selling (bid) price, which represents the cost of the transaction.
• Leverage and Margin:
  • Leverage: Borrowing capital to control larger positions with a smaller initial deposit, this magnifies your potential profits and risks.
  • Margin: The required deposit (collateral) to open and maintain a leveraged position.
• Market Order Types:
  • Market Order: Executed immediately at the current market price.
  • Limit Order: An order to buy/sell at a specific or better price.
  • Stop-Loss: A risk management order that automatically closes a trade at a set price to prevent further losses.

It might sound like complete gibberish to you now, but as you gain more experience in forex trading, these terms will become second nature to you.

Women In Forex Trading

You might be hesitant because you think that forex trading is for men, but this couldn't be further from the truth. In 2026, women are really carving a name for themselves in previously male-dominated fields, and the forex exchange is no exception. A lot of women are motivated by the desire for financial independence, flexibility or are just SAHMs trying to find more financial solutions for their families.

These days, women actively trade forex, and they're actually an increasing, successful demographic in the industry. Even though estimates say women only take up about 12-15% of the trading industry, that number is definitely growing.

Working From Home Might Be The Future of SAHM

In this economy, it isn't always possible for one parent to work while the other stays at home, but that doesn't mean you need to let go of your dreams of being a stay-at-home mom. Thanks to the internet, there are so many opportunities for you to work from home that have flexible hours and the potential for a decent income.

Forex trading isn't as hard as you might think. Just do your research and make sure you find a reputable broker. With a little work and a lot of determination, you might just surprise yourself.

When CNY Becomes Simpler, But More Meaningful

My parents no longer do elaborate CNY preparations like they did in the early 1980s, when my late maternal grandmother was still around. Back then, pre-CNY preparations meant trips to Ipoh Old Town to buy dried goods and waxed meat. My parents and grandmother even made their own Chinese sausages. I still remember vividly how they were made — actually quite simple, but incredibly time-consuming. The sausages had to be dried under the hot sun for a couple of weeks. A few days before CNY, some of the homemade sausages would be gifted to relatives.

My grandmother would also stock up on CNY snacks — and the now-demonized soda. In those days, we only got to drink soda once a year, during CNY. The drinks came in glass bottles, packed in wooden crates. My favourites were Fanta Grape, Fanta Orange, and Fanta Strawberry. After finishing the drinks, we’d return the empty bottles to the sundry shop owner.

Dad would also bring us to Super Kinta and let us “throw anything we wanted” into the shopping cart. It truly felt like the best days of our childhood — imagine kids loading the trolley with chocolates, chips, and candies, once a year without limits.

Fast forward more than 40 years, and our CNY preparations are much simpler. We no longer eat much waxed meat as it’s considered unhealthy. Soda is long gone, and sugary snacks are no longer a staple.

But some traditions remain.

My mum still makes cookies every year, no matter how tired she is. And dad must have his customary CNY fruit cake matured in brandy. This year, mum only made two types of cookies — her signature butter cookies using Golden Churn butter, and green pea cookies. She and dad also baked fruit cake using her 50+ year-old recipe. And of course, mum still insisted on decorating the house with CNY decor.

Dad has also scaled down the number of dishes for reunion dinner this year. He is 83 now and gets tired more easily. He insists on cooking all the dishes himself, except for the Yee Sang which was always restaurant-bought.

For my siblings, my mum, and me, it’s no longer about what’s on the dining table. It’s about the togetherness of family that matters most.

I can only hope my parents will be around for many more years, so we can continue celebrating CNY together 💕

Check out the video of our CNY preparation, Eve and 1st day of CNY here: https://www.facebook.com/reel/787338240563419

Our Eve of CNY dinner and brunch on Chor Yat, all home-cooked by dad:

Reunion dinner: Yee Sang with crispy fried salmon skin from Restaurant Sun Marpoh, abalone + broccoli + fatt choy + fish maw + dried oyster, steamed cod fish, steamed Chinese sausage + liver sausage, braised bearded chicken with yellow wine, black fungus and scrambled egg, braised yam with pork belly and blanched yau mak with fried garlic oil. There was also a big pot of lotus root soup.

Stir-fried vegetarian noodles for brunch on Chor Yat.

The 10th Day of CNY: Health Checks & Family Lunch In Menglembu

Today is the 10th day of Chinese New Year, and was my scheduled yearly medical check-up and Pap smear.

This year, instead of visiting my usual gynae in KL, I did it at Pantai Hospital Ipoh. After Googling for female health screening packages, I found that Pantai was offering one of the best deals. I chose the Ruby package at RM380, which includes a Pap smear, blood and urine tests, abdominal ultrasound, lung function test, eye test, dental check, and ECG. I also added an ultrasound of the breasts for RM87.

The whole process was surprisingly quick. By 11am, everything was done. I couldn’t see the doctor today as she had to attend a meeting, so I’ll be reviewing the results with her next week. The medical report was WhatsApped to me by noon.

There was complimentary breakfast too. I had to scan a barcode to choose my meal, and after finishing the scans, I headed to the café. The set was quite a big breakfast — sausage, ham, baked beans with bell pepper, scrambled eggs, a slice of wholemeal toast, hash brown and watermelon. The latte was pretty good too. Not the healthiest, but it was tasty and not overly salty. I haven’t eaten something like that in a long time.

My dad fetched me home, and after a quick shower, I drove us to Menglembu for lunch with my dad’s siblings. The drive there took about an hour, but the return trip was much faster. It was my first time driving to Menglembu using Waze — something I’d probably never do in KL. The traffic in Klang Valley is just too horrendous, and I hate wasting time stuck in jams.

Lunch with the relatives was lovely. But after being away from my fur baby almost the entire day, I realised how much I missed her. It made me wonder how I’ll cope if I ever go back to working full-time and have to leave Haru alone in my room for the whole day. I guess I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it.

All in all, it was a busy and fruitful day. As for my medical report — that’s a story for another day, if I feel like sharing. Not too bad, yet not perfect either. But that’s life, right?

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I drove an hour to Menglembu to have this lovely lunch with my dad's siblings at Best View Restaurant.

Rethinking Retirement at 53

 When I was in my early twenties, I had a very clear picture of life.

By age 53, I imagined I would have retired — bags packed, passport ready, slowly traveling the world with no deadlines and no responsibilities.

Then I entered my forties. Reality gently tapped me on the shoulder.

I began to realise that maybe… I wouldn’t actually stop working at 53.

And now, as I approach 53 in a month, I am certain of one thing —

I will probably still be working in my 60s, perhaps even into my early 70s.

And strangely, I’m at peace with that.

These days, I find myself thinking about picking up a part-time job around my neighbourhood. Something simple, meaningful — maybe even working as a kindergarten teacher aide. Not just for income, but for purpose.

Because at this stage of life, a job is not only about paying bills.

It is also about funding future dreams — like traveling overseas at my own pace, on my own terms.

I look around me and realise I’m not alone in this mindset.

My mum officially retired as a teacher at 55, but she continued tutoring English until her early 60s.

The legendary designer Vera Wang is 76 and still working — elegant, sharp, and unstoppable.

Cliff Richard, one of my favorite singers is still doing his world tour at 85. And Barry Gibb (Bee Gees), my forever favorite singer is planning to do his final world tour at 78. 

Even my neighbour here in Ipoh is still working as an office manager at 78. Yes, almost 80 — and she looks like she’s in her mid-60s.

There really is a difference between staying engaged in life and slowly retreating from it.

And that made me ask myself an honest question:

How do I want to grow old?

I don’t just want to live long.

I want to live well.

I want to look like I’m in my 60s when I’m in my 80s.

I want an active mind and a flexible body.

I want to be able to squat, climb stairs, and still do my daily brisk walks in my 80s — maybe even my 90s, if God permits.

And for me, staying mentally and physically active includes continuing to work in some way.

So no, I don’t think I’ll be stopping work anytime soon.

Right now, I’m giving myself permission to rest and heal here in Ipoh.

But once I feel ready, I already know what comes next.

My resume is updated.

The target websites are bookmarked.

All I need to do is press “send.”

And somehow, that thought doesn’t exhaust me.

It energises me.

Because maybe retirement isn’t about stopping work.

Maybe it’s about redefining it.

Not chasing survival anymore —

but choosing purpose.

What are your thoughts on working into your 70s?

Is retirement an age, or is it a mindset?

Why Financial Literacy Is a Vital Skill for Modern Parents

Meta Description: Learn how financial literacy helps modern parents cut money stress, protect their families and teach kids healthy money habits.

Some days it feels like the majority of parenting is worrying about money: Groceries, school events, birthday parties and surprise bills all pull on the same wallet. When you do not feel in control of your finances, that worry hums in the background, even when you are trying to relax. Financial literacy will not erase every bill, but it can turn down the volume on that constant stress.

Money Stress Is Part of Modern Parenting

If it feels like everything got more expensive overnight, you are not imagining it. Housing, food, childcare, fuel and children’s activities add up quickly. Many families also juggle part time work, side hustles or freelance income, which can make cash flow feel unpredictable.

When you are already tired, every “Can I have this?” or school email asking for a small contribution can feel overwhelming. That is why building money skills is not a luxury. It is part of keeping your home and your mind calmer.

What Financial Literacy Really Means

“Financial literacy” may sound technical, but in a family setting it is very practical. It simply means:

• Knowing what comes in and what goes out of your accounts

• Having a clear plan for bills, debt and daily spending

• Saving something for emergencies and future goals

• Understanding interest, credit and common fees

• Thinking ahead about education, healthcare and retirement.

As your confidence grows, you might explore simple investing or even small, carefully planned forex trading, always remembering that higher potential returns come with higher risk. Any investing should only involve money you can afford to lose after essentials and emergency savings are covered. The goal is informed decisions, not quick wins.

Financial Literacy As Self Care

Many parents carry a mental checklist from the moment they wake up: meals, laundry, homework, work tasks and appointments. When money feels uncertain, on top of that, it adds an invisible weight.

Learning about your finances is a way to support your future self. When you understand what is coming in, what is going out and what is due soon, unexpected costs feel less frightening. You can say “yes” or “not this month” with confidence instead of guessing. That sense of control may not look glamorous, but it is still a powerful form of self-care.

A Simple Family Budget That Fits Real Life

A budget does not need to be complicated. Think of it as a basic map for your money each month. You can start with three steps:

1. Write down your monthly income from salary, benefits and regular side work.
   
   

2. List your essential expenses: rent or mortgage, utilities, childcare, transport, insurance and minimum debt payments.
   
   

3. Estimate flexible spending such as groceries, school lunches, clothes and small treats.

You can keep this in a notebook or a simple app. The goal is not perfection. It is awareness. Once you see where your money goes, you can adjust gradually, perhaps moving a small amount toward savings or reducing unnecessary spending.

Emergency Funds and Future Goals

Saving can feel impossible when money is tight, but even small amounts make a difference. A good first milestone is a modest emergency fund. Aim for a starter goal like 200 or 300 dollars to cover real emergencies such as medical bills, car repairs or a broken appliance. As that cushion grows, you can think about longer term goals: setting aside money for your children’s needs, healthcare costs or retirement. You do not have to fund everything at once. What matters most is building the habit of saving regularly, even if the amount is small.

Handling Debt Without Shame

Many families carry debt, including credit cards, car loans, student loans or buy now pay later plans. Shame often leads to avoidance, but ignoring debt usually increases stress.

Set aside time to list each debt, its interest rate and the minimum payment. Then choose a simple repayment approach. You might focus on paying off the smallest balance first for quick motivation, or prioritize the highest interest rate to save more in the long run. The key is consistency and avoiding new high cost debt whenever possible.

Digital Money and Spending Traps

Today, money often exists as numbers on a screen rather than cash in hand. Contactless payments, online shopping and in-app purchases make spending almost effortless. Children may see you tap your card and assume money is unlimited.

A few simple habits can help:

• Turn off one-click purchases where possible

• Wait 24 hours before buying non essential items online

• Review subscriptions regularly and cancel unused services.

Talking to older children about how much apps, games and streaming services actually cost helps them understand that digital money is still real money. These small conversations quietly build financial awareness.

Teaching Kids About Money at Every Age

Money lessons do not need to be formal; they often happen naturally in the course of daily life.

For younger children, let them use a clear jar for coins so they can see savings grow. At the supermarket, explain simple choices, such as selecting a lower cost brand to free up money for something else later.

For school-age children, a small allowance can teach budgeting. Let them decide whether to spend immediately or save for something bigger. Experiencing the consequences of spending all their money is a valuable lesson.

For teenagers, involve them in more realistic conversations. Show them a bank statement, explain fees and discuss part-time income that can be divided into spending, saving and giving. When they see you planning and occasionally saying “not this month,” they learn that setting limits is normal and responsible.

Small Habits That Protect Your Family

You do not need a complete financial overhaul to improve your situation. A few simple habits can create lasting change:

• Have a 10-minute weekly money check-in to review balances and upcoming bills

• Set up a small automatic transfer to savings on payday

• Track unexpected expenses for a month so you can plan better next time

• Talk openly about money with your partner or a trusted friend.

Over time, these actions build confidence. What once felt overwhelming becomes part of the routine of managing a household.

Final Thoughts: Progress Over Perfection

If you grew up in a home where money was linked to stress or silence, it is natural to feel uneasy about finances now. The good news is that you do not need to be perfect to create a healthier money environment for your children. Every step you take to understand budgeting, saving, debt and planning strengthens your family’s foundation.

Chinese New Year Day 7 - A Spoonful of Memories Across Generations

Today is Yan Yat — the birthday of all humankind, also known as Everyone’s Birthday. It falls on the 7th day of Chinese New Year.

Since I was a child, my late maternal grandmother would cook fish and chicken porridge topped with fresh lettuce on this day. The dish is called Yue Sang Gai Jok. It was something I looked forward to every year. She would also fry fermented bean paste with garlic as a savoury condiment for the porridge. Grandma came from Guangdong, China, and was an amazing self-taught cook.

After she passed on, my dad took over the tradition. Without fail, he continued cooking fish and chicken porridge every 7th day of CNY — but I was rarely around to taste it. I missed it year after year.

This year, being back at my ancestral home, I finally got to enjoy his porridge again — my first bowl in more than a decade. Dad slow-cooked a rich pot filled with fresh grouper, abalone, prawns, dried oysters, pumpkin and chicken. Just before serving, he placed raw lettuce at the bottom of our bowls and poured the hot porridge over it. It was deeply comforting and incredibly delicious.

A little history behind this tradition:

Fish is an important dish during CNY as it symbolises abundance and prosperity. It represents having a good start and a good ending to the year. Elders also believe that feeding children porridge on the 7th day of the Lunar New Year helps them do well in their studies.

Being able to taste this again, in the same home where my childhood memories were made, feels extra meaningful this year. Some traditions may be simple, but they carry love across generations.

Do you have a special tradition for the 7th day of CNY? I’d love to hear it 💗

Our Yan Yat porridge today, cooked with rice, millet, grouper fish, prawns, abalone, dried oysters, chicken, pumpkin, carrots and served with raw lettuce. 

My dad gave me this bowl where the 'liu' (ingredients) are more than the porridge.  

2026 Chinese New Year

CNY felt different this year — in the best way. For the first time in years, I’m celebrating the entire 2 weeks of CNY back in my hometown, and with that came something I didn’t realise I had been missing so deeply: family reunions.

For so long, I missed gatherings with my dad’s siblings — my uncles, aunties, and cousins. Life in KL made those moments rare. But this year, I had it all again. I saw relatives I hadn’t met in years, and there was something incredibly heartwarming about picking up conversations as if no time had passed.

On the 2nd day of CNY, my girls suggested Korean food for dinner. Alycia did a quick Google search and found Daorae Korean BBQ Restaurant, which is just a short drive from my parents’ house. I later learned that Daorae is the largest Korean restaurant chain in Malaysia, with 11 outlets nationwide. Dinner was fantastic — sizzling meats, warm soups, ginseng chicken soup, endless side dishes — but what made it truly special was having all three of my girls around the table with me. Moments like that feel extra precious these days. They returned to KL with their dad the very next day, and the house felt noticeably quieter.

On the 4th day of CNY, my cousin from Cameron Highlands treated us to a sumptuous lunch at San Poh Restaurant in Pasir Pinji. The food was wonderful, but what made it memorable was the laughter and the endless catching up with cousins I hadn’t seen in years.

Growing up, until my early twenties, my dad would take us up to Cameron Highlands every CNY. I used to dread those trips — the winding mountain roads gave me terrible motion sickness, and I often ended up throwing up. When I moved to KL, I was honestly relieved that those trips stopped.

But funny how life comes full circle.

Now, I find myself missing those journeys — the reunion dinners, the noisy gatherings, the simple joy of being surrounded by cousins, uncles, and aunties. The things we once took for granted often become the memories we cherish most.

This CNY reminded me that while traditions may change, what truly matters is being present — whether around a steamboat table in Cameron Highlands, a Korean BBQ grill near my childhood home, or a round table filled with relatives and stories.

What’s a CNY tradition you once had that you now miss? 💛

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