Today, Sherilyn came home from school looking very down. When we were inside the lift, she told me this "mummy, someone wore my shoes after library today. I had no shoes to wear, so I had to wear someone's shoes" and then pointed to the over-sized white canvass shoes that she was wearing. I told her that she should not have worn shoes that did not belong to her but should have reported the matter to the teacher in-charged in the library, to which she told me that the teacher in charged in the library was not around. So she just picked a pair of shoes to wear as they were about to go home.
Moments later, Sherilyn told me angrily that she hated the pair of over-sized shoes as they were loose on her feet. I told her that since someone had worn her shoes and she has taken another person's shoes, she will have to wear that pair of shoes now. It will not be practical for me to drive all the way to her school to report to the teacher in charged of the library about this incident. I had just bought her an extra pair of school shoes on Sunday and I told her that I will not buy her another pair of shoes again. She then broke down and ran into the house, throwing tantrums and hurling replies to me saying that she will NOT wear that pair of big shoes that are not hers. She wanted me to buy her another pair of spare shoes, again! She refused to eat her lunch and only ate when I gave her an ultimatum to finish her lunch by 3pm, failing which she will face the music.
As a responsible and sensible mother, what should I do now?
1) Do I go to school and report this incident to the teacher in charged of the library? I will definitely cause a big hoopla when the teacher calls all the students that were in the library today and asks Sherilyn to look for her pair of shoes. For all I know, the student who accidentally wore Sherilyn's shoes would have left the pair of shoes at home and wore another pair of shoes.
2) Take the easy way out - buy her another pair of shoes and throw away the over-sized shoes that are not hers? But I will be sending her a wrong signal... that if she loses things, mummy will buy her a new one. No way!
3) Force her to wear the over-sized shoes and get her to ask around and to hunt for her own shoes tomorrow and for the next few days?
4) Leave her with only 1 pair of shoes and let her take accountability over her own actions. If that sole pair of shoes are not dried on time for school on Monday, she will have to wear semi-wet shoes to school.
What would you do if you were me?
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11 comments:
This is a tricky one. Will choose option 3. This will also make her accountable.
Report to teacher but cannot blame your girl all too....is an accident case. Give her one more change buy a pair shoes for then write her name inside her shoes with marker pen tht visible.
Report to teacher but cannot blame your girl all too....is an accident case. Give her one more change buy a pair shoes for then write her name inside her shoes with marker pen tht visible.
Nat, Alycia & Sherilyn's shoes and school uniforms all have names written on them, as advised by the school principal.
It happened to my gal before. Someone a year older wore her shoes and she reported to teacher immediately. Teacher asked the students to remove their shoes and found the culprit.I would suggest asking Sherilyn to wear the spare shoes tomorrow and bring along the oversize shoes to the teacher tomorrow. For all you know the other student may bring back the shoes tomorrow.
Bring back to school lo, try to locate back. She probably refuse to do so because she didn't have to courage to face her "snap decision" to take others shoes....
Give her a hand on this lar.. poor thing although i can totally understand ur frust with her..
I will bring her back n help her to find her shoes. Not her fault since someone wore her shoes first. N since it was time to go home she probably didn't wanna miss her transport home
Not her fault, she shouldn't be punished for it. I would support her and go to her school to help her locate the shoes since you said her name is there in those shoes. If this doesn't work, I wouldn't continue to punish her, just get her another pair of shoes.
I agree that it is not her fault and I also fail to see the mountain that has been created! Some body took her shoes by mistake, and S had to wear another pair home, big deal. I am just concered if there is a 3rd kid involved who does not have her own shoes...a 3-way switch! When my kids were in school, at the end of the year there was a pile of stuff in the gym...boots, shoes, gloves, backpacks, scarves, lunchboxes etc for anybody to look through and claim. Whatever wasn't claimed was donated to charity. FYI..my friend's son who was in a gifted program would lose the most stuff!
This happen to my son. Someone wore his brand new shoes and he had to wear a worn out shoes. No, I didn't punish him at all. I ask him to wear his spare pair, bring the 'wrong shoes' to school the next day and tell the teacher. However, they couldn't find the culprit.
I'd get her to wear her extra pair of shoes and bring that McDonald's shoes to school. Who knows the culprit's mother will also get her child to return Sherilyn's shoes? If that fails, then I'll have no choice but to get her a new pair of shoes. She can't be walking around like Ronald McDonald, not comfortable leh..
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